What Women Want To Hear and The Men Who Get It.

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Author: Emile-Anne Smith

It is in this stage that men more often than not excel above all other skills they have. Once they are positive that they have passed the preliminary screening stage part, not only does that man confidence increases, but their mannerism is a lot more laid back. Try and thinking of it in this way: when a man meets the lady he is interested in for the first time, he will try to impress her as much as he possibly can, yet there is still some uneasiness and discomfiture in the way he talks to this lady. As he becomes more comfortable around his now girlfriend, he becomes a very smooth operator, talking with the persuasiveness and effectiveness of a used car salesman all over his client.

This brings me to the point of this article and about how men react during sexual intercourse. Before they even get any "action" as most men see it and call it, they will sweet talk a woman like there is no tomorrow, whisper all the sweet nothings in her ear, tell her how beautiful she is, and how much he loves her. Men use the word love like it is as common as water the water we drink everyday. Pretty much the instant after the sexual intercourse is finished for the man; he will go into hibernation mode. It is understandable if they don't want to be touched to the man himself, but how does reaching his own climax prevent any man from talking about it and his feelings a couple of minutes later?

As with everything else in the man's life, they usually lose almost all interest in something after they worked so hard to get it. Women are no fools about this at all; they know that for a man, sometimes all that chase is better than the actual catch itself. That is why we women like to play "hard to get". The really sad part of this all is that all it takes 5 minutes of very tender talk after sex, to make any woman feel 100% satisfied. If a man wants to score those huge brownie points with the woman he is with, he really must learn how to treat her right throughout the whole sexual process he worked hard to get in the first place.

Here are a few tips on how to treat a lady. Talk to her about what just happened between the both of you, both what you liked during it all and what you didn't like, but in a tender way. Also remember that for everything you didn't like, mention 2 or 3 things that you did like. The very worst thing you can do in this situation is be negative; it makes a woman feel very vulnerable. Reassuring your feelings towards her is mandatory. You do not have to tell her you love her a million times, but let her know your softer feelings. If you have no feelings about it all, please keep that to yourself, it shows some kind of character in a man. Tell her how you truly feel from deep inside of you. This is not overly hard for a man to do, as they like women to think it is, after all, unless the sex was not up to scratch, a man is usually in a great and positive state of mind after the intercourse has taken place.

In reality, talking about these simple things really takes no more than about 5 to 10 minutes, yet it does narrow the gender gap between the very different man and women, and those who think it is true that men are really from Mars, and women are from Venus. Good sex is always wonderful to have, but communication and understanding is what ensures continual pleasure in having it and makes for a better sex life.